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Are thinking of becoming a parent in the future?

Are thinking of becoming a parent in the future? Would you be willing to answer some confidential questions about your life and your future family? Want a chance to win a $20 Target gift card? The purpose of this study is to examine the many ways people think about and want to create their future families.

 The study consists of an online survey and will take approximately 20-35 minutes of your time. To qualify for the study you have to be over the age of 18, not have any children currently, and want to become a parent in the future. If you have a partner we would like them to participate too! This study has been approved by the Pennsylvania State University IRB #00001200, and I am working with Dr. Henny Bos who is an Associate Professor at the Research Institute of Child Development and Education at the University of Amsterdam in the Netherlands.

 If you and/or your partner are interested in participating or want further information please contact Dr. Samantha L. Tornello (Principal Investigator) via email IntendedParentStudy@gmail.com or visitwww.intendedparentstudy.com. She will send you a web link that you can use to access the study.

 Dr. Samantha Tornello

Assistant Professor of Psychology

Pennsylvania State University-Altoona

(814) 949-5351

IntendedParentStudy@gmail.com

www.IntendedParentStudy.com

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The Role of Technology in Parenting

Guest blogger Amy Williams

Do you recall the coolest gadget from the year 2000?

If I recall, DVDs were one of the newest technologies on the market. Granted, we still had our trusty VCR, could still buy Spice Girls CDs, had to use slow dial-up Internet, and owned only one cell phone. Looking back has really shown us how much technology has changed over the years.

Not too long ago, we were able to limit a child’s exposure technology to just a few cartoons on Saturday morning, or make a conscious choice of when to give your child a quarter to play an arcade game. Today, devices have invaded our lives creating an imbalance of digital screens and face to face interactions.

The technology revolution has placed parents in a dicey situation as they struggle to find a healthy balance while raising digital natives. We need to negotiate a healthy relationship with our devices, because all the data sharing and downloading of apps has the potential to impact a young child’s development. Parents can choose if these experiences will be good or bad for our children.

little girl watching television - cartoons for kids

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How Having a Baby Changes a Couple’s Relationship

When a man and a woman have a baby, it is a profound transition – the most important change in their adult lives. How becoming parents can affect them as individuals and as a couple is still not well understood in our culture. Of all the Western industrialized countries, the United States offers the least support for family adjustment and development. Politicians would like us to believe that we put a priority on family life, but the reality is just not so. How a man makes the transition to parenthood, and how a baby changes a man’s relation to his wife, are very important areas for us as men to understand.

When a baby is born, the focus of the new mother’s attention is on the baby. This is part of the normal developmental process. Mothers become preoccupied with the baby’s needs, often to the exclusion of everyone and everything else. This is part of her biological makeup. Most new fathers are unaware of this normal maternal preoccupation and are often surprised and frustrated at how abandoned they may feel. We have no information about what to expect after a baby is born. Men have very little preparation for this intimate part of life. Childbirth preparation classes often help us share with our wives the experience of pregnancy, but we are unaware of what to expect emotionally after the baby arrives. So what’s a dad to do?

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Controversial new video on motherhood…

The competition about who is parenting “best” continues…not sure this video helps or hurts? Certainly not positive images for the dads …looks like another attempt to exploit the vulnerability of new parents for profit?

Millennials and Parenthood?

Baby limbo: Millennials struggle to find the right time for parenthood

From Yahoo Finance
By Mandi Woodruff January 17, 2015 9:27 PM

Mandy Wallace, 30, never doubted who she would wind up with. She was a teenager when she met her high school sweetheart, Nathan, 31, in their hometown of Bakersfield, Calif. By the time they graduated college in 2009, both with degrees in English, they were already married.

They had talked about having children for years, but with graduation came an unwelcome reality check: a combined $60,000 worth of student loan debt.

“It was paralyzing thinking about how we’d manage to give kids everything they deserved [with this debt],” says Wallace, a fiction writer and writing coach. “It’s enough to make me wonder why anyone feels safe having kids at all.”

Like many other recession-era millennials, she and Nathan decided to put off parenthood for a few years, following a trend that, along with an apparent lack of interest in homeownership, some have worried might stymie economic growth.

Birth rates among 20- to 24-year-olds were down 2% between 2012 and 2013, and birth rates among 25- to 29-year-olds have fallen by 1% each year since 2008, according to the CDC. Despite economists’ fears, however, it doesn’t seem millennials are foregoing the institution of family altogether. Birth rates among older millennials (30- to 34-year-olds) are actually on the rise — up 2% in 2013.

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3 Ways Fathers Make a Difference

The way a father acts with and towards his child has a big influence on his child’s development. Through current scientific research we are now articulating some of the specifics. We can no longer burden mothers with placing the psychological well being of their child solely on the mother-child bond. A number of writers are now making the scientific research on fatherhood  available in “decoded” formats for every parent to have access to. Here are three ways dads make a real difference in the lives of their children.

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Current Trends in Reseach on Fatherhood

Some current trends for dads from our editorial staff at the Fathers’ Forum blog.

Researchers from Yale University scanned the brains of 16 university-educated professionals at different stages of their young child’s life, and discovered that becoming a father can trigger a major brain chemistry change.

When a couple is expecting a baby, it’s not just the mother that goes through hormonal changes. A new study suggests impending fatherhood coincides with a drop in two hormones in men—testosterone and estradiol—even before the baby is born.

How President Johnson’s War on Poverty had unexpected outcomes for Black Fathers.

The world of fatherhood is changing in so many ways. Stay informed of the current trends in fatherhood here on our blog. If you want to discuss the changes you are going through as a dad join one of our groups in the San Francisco area in California or our developing online community at the New Dads Network.

 

 

8 Important Considerations for Fathers

  1. From birth onward your physical presence is important to your child. Understand how “being there” for your children often means saying little but standing in the audience, sitting in the bleachers or driving the carpool.
  1. Listen, listen, listen and listen to everything your children want to tell you. As they get older take seriously their positions, ideas and opinions.

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