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Your Own Frame of Mind Will Influence Your Child’s Future

Welcome guest blogger Rachel Thomas to the New Dad Times, blog of the Fathers’ Forum.

Parents influence the minds of their children far more than what many of them realize. While they are young, children are absorbing every bit of information as they develop. The majority of this information comes from you. Everything you say, the way you act, and even many of your mannerisms will become integrated into your child. The way your child will approach this information can also be influenced by how you approach similar situations in your life.

The teachers at school may be developing their knowledge of studies, but it is you who will teach them about real life instances and adaptation. You can influence a variety of aspects of their life such as:

  • Social interaction
  • Eating habits
  • Linguistic skills
  • Emotional responses
  • Even sense of humor

1. Social Interactions – The way you interact with those around you can have an impact in how your child will react as well. If they perceive that it’s OK to behave a certain way to certain people, it could become a way of life for him or her. For example, children who hold up signs while protesting funerals become accustomed to the behavior because it’s what the parent wants and does themselves.

2. Eating Habits – If you have an eating disorder, your child could develop one as well. He or she will see that it’s OK to eat a certain way. It’s quite common to see an obese family as opposed to just a single individual among more trim members. If you want your children to have better eating habits, you must have them yourself. Otherwise, you could be opening the door to physical complications for your child later in life.

3. Linguistic Skills – The speech patterns of a family are obviously influential for a child. He or she is not only subjected to the language type from the moment they are born, but the grammar and usage as well. If you speak a broken form of English and/or use profanity a lot, the child will adapt this method of communication and do the same.

4. Emotional Responses – It’s only human to have an emotional response from stimuli around you. It’s how the response is handled that children will adapt. If you openly cry at movies, the child will see that it’s OK to display those emotions around others. If you suffer from road rage on the freeway in front of your child, they will absorb that form of response as well.

5. Sense of Humor – Often times, your own views as to what is funny is passed on to your children. This could be good or bad depending on the circumstances that surround what you believe to be humorous. Unfortunately, it may be difficult to change this aspect of your life for your children as humor is such an integrated reaction to what you personally perceive as being funny.

You are the primary method in which your children view the world at a young age. Your own frame of mind will influence how the child perceives that world. By improving your own way of thinking, you could improve the way your child thinks when he or she gets old enough to handle more complicated circumstances in life. Treat yourself well in order to promote the same lifestyle for your child.

Author Bio:

Rachel is an ex-babysitting pro as well as a professional writer and blogger. She is a graduate from Iowa State University and currently writes for She welcomes questions/comments which can be sent to @