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The New Dad Times mission…& getting ready for Thanksgiving

I have been trying to find the direction or the mission my blog is on. I think I have found it! This blog is for expectant and new dads…interesting information (hopefully) on fatherhood.  It will be especially helpful for men who facilitate “father’s groups” or dads who are in father’s groups.

For 25 years I have been facilitating “Men’s Group for Fathers of Young Children.” Seven dads in each group all with kids from 1 month up to 5 years old. For more information on these groups visit the Fathers’ Forum Online.  On Thursday’s I will write about some of the themes from the group. On Monday’s there will be a guest blog.  (If you are a daddy blogger and would like one of your post’s to include as a guest post, please contact me.)The weekend post will share something from the current research or writing on the changing trends in fatherhood.

Last night at the Fathers’ Forum  we took up the theme of Thanksgiving and the dads reflected on what they were thankful for. Of course everyone said especially for having their child and the opportunity to be a dad. As we talked further the dads became aware of how appreciative they were of their wives. How their relationship with them was so special as they developed as a family.  They all agreed at their Thanksgiving dinners they would ask everyone who wanted to, to speak about what they were thankful for this year. They all agreed how they want to make sure everyone at their dinners knew how thankful they were to their wives.

I would encourage all of you who are reading this to consider trying this for Thanksgiving too.

Another theme we discussed last night was what we learned about being a father from our children? We became aware that one of the ways we learn to be a dad is from our kids. The week before we were all talking about how our  fathers had influenced us. It was insightful for us to recognize how children also show us something about who we are and what we need to be/do as a dad. Some of the responses about what are kids taught us were;  patience, intimacy, emotionality, fear and joy.

Think about it…how would you answer the question; “What has my child taught me about being a father?

For more themes to consider for discussion in your dads group…check out the Articles Section at the Fathers’ Forum Reading Room.