I was at the community pool yesterday. I was watching a dad help his 4 year old daughter get in the pool. She kept walking up to edge and then shying back. She saw her friend playing in the water with her dad and clearly wanted to get in the pool with her dad. He tried coaxing her and reassuring her that the “water isn’t to cold,” “you are a good swimmer,” I will hold hold you and I won’t let go.” She began to cry saying she couldn’t get in.
Her dad got out of the pool picked her up and said it will be OK…”you love the water.” And while she was crying he carried her in the pool…while she conducted somewhat of a tantrum. In about 45 seconds…holding her hands and pulling her through the water she was laughing and looking like she was having about the best of a time.
This is what dads do…help us take the “plunge” when we perhaps are tentative about taking the risk. It has something to do with boundaries.